Jumping the Shark

Jumping the Sharkis a term used in Hollywood to describe when a TV show or a movie begins to decline in its evolution. It originated when the Fonz literally jumped over a shark on the popular 80s show Happy Days. Critics felt that Happy Days had once been a clever, funny show and that jumping the shark was just too far…

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It's Only 90 Seconds

Strong emotions don’t need to be feared or removed. When I finally allowed myself to feel my feelings, I discovered that they passed quickly and, even if I cried or screamed aloud, they weren’t harmful.

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The Myth of Being Fine

When my mom was being hospitalized with cancer, I spent nearly every day in the hospital; I ate poorly, and hardly slept and was paralyzed with anxiety and fear. This is when I noticed my tendency to try to control my feelings to make others comfortable. When someone asked me how I was I’d answer ‘fine,’ which clearly wasn’t true. I was whatever the opposite of fine is. 

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Kitten, Cat or Lion?

This behavior is called lionizing, it means to treat someone as very important or special when they don’t really deserve this status. I went through life lionizing everyone but myself. It like describing a house cat as a lion.

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Seeing Eye to Eye

I found it very difficult to look people in the eye when I was suffering from shame. I would force myself to do it in settings like job interviews or negotiations but generally I avoided the direct or prolonged gaze of others. I would always look away because it felt unbearable to be seen.

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Are You Making it Worse?

I made a pretty big mistake last week. A couple of people got mad at me for good reason. As I rode through my discomfort with their anger I realized that I was recalling other times I made someone angry. I started to tell myself that I was doing it again, acting in a careless, irresponsible way, just like I did as a teenager.

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