Becoming Size Zero

For most of my life I judged myself by two numbers, my clothing size and my weight. The lower the number the better. As an anorexic, my main objective wasn’t just perfection it was to disappear entirely. No weight would ever be low enough. 

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An Indelible Mark

I’ve been fortunate to have a few exceptional teachers in my life. I wanted to talk about teachers a little bit because I lost a great teacher this week. He’s left an indelible mark on my life.

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The Illusion of Control

This is the funny thing about the illusion of control, it immediately isolates us from others. I think I, and I alone, have to figure things out and solve the problem. I think when things go wrong it’s my fault. If I dig under the surface of this idea there’s an ugly truth: I think I have an extraordinary amount of power to influence and change things.

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Shed Your Skin

I have a good reason for why I don’t do resolutions. I think new year’s resolutions imply that I’ve been failing and starting today I’m going to do better. I think that concept is laden with shame and failure. 

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Picking Up Momentum

When I was a kid one of my favorite gifts was a Black Knight skateboard. When I first got it we lived in a neighborhood with a big four lane street with long expanses of well finished sidewalks. It was perfect for zipping through the neighborhood and learning simple skateboard tricks.

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Do You Want a Job with ESPN?

I’m a big sports fan, and like most sports fans I like to watch the post-game show. I enjoy hearing what the commentators have to say about important plays and key players in the game. So, I say this with love and respect, the post-game is kind of silly. 

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Seeking to Hide

I’m afraid of people seeing me and knowing who I really am. It terrifies me, but I’m getting better. I’m starting to recognize that the price of authenticity is vulnerability. If I am open and honest, people will see who I really am and there’s a possibility they’ll reject that.

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One of These Things

Remember the segment of Sesame Street, One of These Things is not Like the Others? It was intended to help teach children the essential skill of identifying differences in objects. This skill is useful and necessary for human beings. At the simplest level, we need to know that a shoe and boot are not the same thing. In terms of survival, we need to recognize the differences between a tiger and housecat.

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